Thankful to Travel

I know, I know. It's been a while since the last time I wrote. A lot has happened since April 20, when I had just come back from a trip to Savannah and droned on and on about the historical significance of what is a very charming little Southern city. Just a few hours ago, the president of the governing body behind the world's most popular sport in the world resigned. There was a second royal baby in May. Earlier this week, a former Olympic champion and once the greatest athlete on the globe publicly began a new life as a woman. 

Time really does fly. I've been active myself recently and had the overwhelmingly good fortune to spend time with the most important people in my life in a variety of places I could never have anticipated having any reason to see. In just the last month or so, I've..

Always keep adventuring.

...watched the Meatball, along with thousands of her classmates, graduate from the University of South Carolina. 

...strolled along the boardwalk in Asbury Park, New Jersey and intimately felt the ocean's commanding presence without being surrounded by throngs of summer weekend tourists.

...stood on a crisp Friday night under a glowing sunset at the grave of Edward Braddock, the commander-in-chief of the British and colonial forces during the French and Indian War. 

...ridden a bike through nature trails outside Pittsburgh and had a picnic next to a small creek and a little league baseball field that instantly brought back so many wonderful childhood memories. 

...been to six baseball games in Virginia, Maryland, and Pennsylvania, and stood in front of the most important government buildings of three different states: the New Jersey State House in Trenton, the Virginia State Capitol in Richmond, and the Pennsylvania Capitol Building in Harrisburg.

There are many travel blogs out there that feature exotic destinations and provide great information for those who are curious about the world outside of their own. I'm extremely envious of those who get to make a living traveling and detailing their adventures here and there, from beaches to forests to mountains and everywhere in between. I'd love to be able to do the same thing every day of my life.

When I stop to think about it, though, I realize just how lucky I've truly been already. I've lived in England for a year and a half and earned a Master's degree while I was at it. I've lived in five different states back on this side of the Atlantic, challenging myself by spending extensive time in unfamiliar environments (here's to you, Kansas!) where I literally didn't know anybody before I got there. I've visited places both in America and abroad that 99% of the world's population will never have the means to see, and I dare to complain when things don't go exactly to plan or I'm inconvenienced in some ultimately menial way.

In just a few weeks Gina and I will be setting out on one of the most expansive vacations I know I've ever had -- spending two weeks traversing the Rocky Mountains, camping in five national parks (four in the U.S. and one in Canada), and spending nights in some cities like Missoula, Montana, Grand Junction, Colorado, and Boise, Idaho, that are not particularly well known here on the East Coast and which I am eager to explore. I hope to be more diligent in my effort to capture these experiences on paper (or in this case, my laptop) and in visual form. I'm hoping to do short daily video blogs while we're out there, but I'm learning more and more that if I don't stop and waste too much time documenting every small detail on social media, my life will still go on. I want to focus on soaking in all of the new things, and new people, we'll encounter. 

A short post today, but one that was important to me. Travel isn't always about the most glamorous locales or the means in which you do it. It's about gaining new perspectives and doing that with people who mean the most, whether it's yourself or with friends and family. And on that very cliched note, I'll leave it here until later this month!

New York, New York

Saturday was going to be an exciting day for me, one that I had been eagerly awaiting for the past couple weeks. It would be the first time I would set foot on the upstate New York campus of Binghamton University, where I’ve been accepted as a Ph.D. student in Art History beginning this fall. I’d get to see my family in New Jersey, which I love doing and have written extensively about before, though I know you’ve followed this blog with the utmost diligence and knew that already.

Still, though I had a four-and-a-half hour drive ahead, no degree of anticipation was large enough for me to indulge when my alarm went off at 5:30 AM yesterday morning. No activity should be pursued at that hour other than sleeping, and the last thing I wanted to do was get on an interstate highway with my functions operating so sluggishly. So, I went back to bed, woke up at a more reasonable hour, and got on the road...

…and almost immediately drove into a snowstorm. I might remind you that April is right around the corner, and this unexpected meteorological development sparked extreme annoyance within me, and this feeling was aggravated further right around the border between Maryland and Pennsylvania, where it seemed that no one had ever seen such a phenomenon, and if they had, certainly did not know how to drive capably in it. I passed two bad wrecks that backed up traffic for miles, encountered cars moving at under 10 miles per hour even on open roads, and was forced to take a detour from my planned route through Harrisburg to an alternative passage around Lancaster, Reading, and Allentown.

At this point in the morning, annoyed by incompetent motorists and still feeling a bit tired from the night before, I felt sufficiently hangry enough to stop at Sheetz in Kutztown, though Sheetz is worth anyone’s patronage no matter how they are feeling. Sheetz is an American treasure; both as an endlessly entertaining source of people-watching and for its delicious MTO food creations. I gorged myself on a hotcake with maple sausage, egg, and cheese, and washed that down with a nice flatbread sandwich with bacon, caramelized onions, and cheese (of course).

After surviving the heart attack scare prompted by the instantaneous clogging of my most vital veins and arteries, I plowed deeper into the heart of Pennsylvania, driving on past Wilkes-Barre and Scranton before crossing the border into New York.

Binghamton University is actually located in the small town of Vestal, a three-mile drive straight down the shoreline of the (frozen) Susquehanna River from the city of Binghamton itself, which is home to nearly 50,000 people and about 16,000 more when the university is in session.

It is probably best known as the alma mater of Tony Kornheiser, a co-host of ESPN’s Pardon the Interruption and formerly an outstanding sports journalist at both the New York Times and the Washington Post. His daily radio show emanating out of D.C. provided the majority of my entertainment in podcast form on the long drive.

If not Kornheiser, you may also have heard of the illustrious achievements of Binghamton’s men’s basketball team, which competes in the mighty America East Conference and has fought its way valiantly to a 26-128 record over the past five seasons. The last time the Bearcats did achieve success on the hardwood, when they reached the NCAA Tournament in 2008, they did so on the back of a crack-dealing point guard, a forward who left a classmate in a coma after a barroom brawl before jumping bail and returning to his native Serbia, and a transfer student who was charged with stealing condoms from Wal-Mart.

I was invited to a conference put on the university’s Art History department; it provided a great opportunity for me to network with current students and faculty, interact with visiting speakers from other universities, including Harvard, MIT, and UMass, and listen to papers on such titillating topics as “Image and Materiality: Man Ray’s Atget Album”, “Glue as Such: The Collaged Books of Aleksei Kruchenykh and Olga Rozanova, 1915-1917”, and “Assembling ‘Smallness’ at the American Small Industries Exhibition, Ceylon 1961”. It was, in all honesty, simultaneously intellectually overwhelming and stimulating, and I was glad to be there. I even contributed to the discussion by asking a question of one of the presenters, whose work was entitled “Industrial Visions: The Politics of Assemblage in Lewis Hine’s Men at Work (1932)” if you’re interested. No? Fair enough.

I was made to feel at home right away, and have nothing but positive things to say about the people who welcomed me to their conference and made concerted efforts to get to know me and answer my questions about the program. If they can somehow help me more realistically afford to attend the university, I would be even more generous in my compliments!

Thanks for the day, Binghamton.

I left Binghamton at about 6:45, having spent just over six hours on campus, and got back on the road for my drive back to New Jersey. This one was a breeze, a quick three-hour sprint back south around Scranton, east through the Delaware Water Gap, then past Piscataway and into the clutches of the Shore. Last night was spent catching up with my aunt, uncle, and one of my cousins, and we four musketeers all attended Palm Sunday Mass in Fair Haven this morning. The Gospel reading was four pages long. FOUR!! Women and children were seen fainting from sheer exhaustion, unable to stand for the duration of Saint Matthew’s recollections.

I’m back in Baltimore now, with Duke-Gonzaga on TV now (‘Zag pride!) for inspiration as I write this. Next weekend it’s home for Easter, then back up to New Jersey and down to South Carolina on successive weekends in mid-April. Until then.

Valentine's Day!

New Orleans’s loss was my gain last weekend, as after the meatball’s plans to go to Mardi Gras in the Big Easy fell through, she decided to come slum it with me in the Mid-Atlantic. Naturally since it was Valentine’s Day on Saturday, we had many romantic things planned for the weekend – starting with eating, progressing to more eating, and finishing with even more eating. We did take a break long enough to fulfill our outdoor activities quota, though!

Gina arrived in Baltimore Thursday night after a long drive from Columbia; she’s now halfway to evening up our dedicationometer after my two treks to South Carolina by car this year. We went grocery shopping, as we always do on our visits, at Target and made dinner in the house. Rigatoni with vodka sauce and parmesan with some chicken strips and bacon mixed in, garlic bread, and pita chips with roasted red pepper and feta cheese dip. 

She then, in her cute way, fell asleep on the couch while we watched Michigan suffer yet another heartbreaking loss in overtime at Illinois, managing to pry defeat from the jaws of victory by collapsing at the end of regulation against the Fighting Illini. After seeing Michigan win both of the first two games I went to in person, the Wolverines are now 0-3 in contests I’ve either attended or watched with Gina. Clearly an ominous sign for our relationship.

We met at my office for lunch on Friday, enjoying the remainder of our crackers and dip from the night before and winning admiring looks and stares from a couple co-workers, who bombarded me with questions and comments after we finished and I made my way back up to my desk. “Was that THE Gina?” “She’s SO cute Michael.” “Would it have been creepy if we came and said hi?” Yes, I know, and maybe, if you would’ve attacked her the same way you did to me five seconds ago.

We went out for dinner that evening, at the delicious Annabel Lee Tavern close to my house. Hint: if it’s Friday night and you didn’t make a reservation, there’s no chance you’re getting in, as we had found out a couple times previously. We had, though, also eaten there once before, and it was just as satisfying this time around. We started off with a mountainous plate of BBQ chicken and applewood smoked bacon nachos, so big that it wound up being boxed and finished by me for lunch earlier this week, before moving onto our respective main courses: roasted duck with poached eggs and Cajun hollandaise sauce over grits for Gina, and a nice, solid crab cake with mashed potatoes and seasoned asparagus for me. We did what damage we could, and I was more than happy to finish those leftovers this week as well.

Mouth is watering just posting this.

After being truly, deeply touched by Gina’s Valentine’s Day gift on Friday night, which included the most thoughtful and loving objects to set the five senses alight, we drove our separate cars back down to Fredericksburg Saturday morning for a quick pit stop at my house before setting out together once again. We made our way westward (though not quite as far west as we will in July. The panicking and hyperventilating that will result from desperate attempts to take pictures, mental notes, and blog after that trip makes my body seize up even now), heading for our second national park in as many weeks.

We’d visited Congaree National Park in South Carolina recently, and it had inspired a quest. There are 59 protected areas in[1] the United States run by the National Park Service and the Department of the Interior that have been established as national parks for their natural beauty, unique geological features, unusual ecosystems, and recreational opportunities, and our new goal is to visit all of them. We’ve already been to a good handful of them on our own, though I know I don’t really remember trips when I was very young to the Grand Canyon, Yellowstone, Sequoia National Park in California, and the Badlands of South Dakota, amongst others, so I’d like to start from scratch and do them all.

There are not many national parks that are conveniently located for East Coasters like us; the vast majority of them are in or west of the Rocky Mountains, so we needed to seize an opportunity that had presented itself. Shenandoah National Park is just a couple hours from my house in Fredericksburg, and though it was far too cold on this February Saturday to do any hiking, Skyline Drive runs for 105 miles down the spine of the park in the Blue Ridge Mountains and was calling our names, begging to be driven on at nothing exceeding 35 miles per hour.

It was an adventure in itself just to get out there. We were bogged down by traffic in Culpeper, just thirty miles from Fredericksburg but a world apart. Who knew Culpeper was so lively? Then, after needing lunch and gas but being far too stubborn and childish to stop in Culpeper, I decided to drive onwards, figuring we could stop in Sperryville because it looked fairly decent-sized on the map. Let me tell you, it is not. Certainly it is bigger than Woodville, which we drove in and out of faster than Usain Bolt runs the 100 meters. If a town has one line written about it on Wikipedia, that’s all you need to know about it. Sperryville is unique. There was literally not a single gas station, which begs the question where its 342 residents fuel up their cars. Yet, every other edifice on its streets was an art gallery or antique shop, begging another question, who exactly buys any of those things? There was a mixture of gravel and paved roads, no surprise for a small town, until you consider that there were no automobiles in sight. Gina spotted a peasant simply trudging through the middle of an empty field. I spotted a vending machine just on the side of the road that had to predate the 1960s. It was the oddest little town, one without petrol, so frustratingly I had to admit I was wrong and we drove on.

We then stopped in Luray, where I knew there would be gas and food because I had actually been there before, having gone on several school field trips as a youngster to the tourist trap that is Luray Caverns. Stalactites and stalagmites, anyone? We pulled into a gas station there, where having been so flustered by our experience in Sperryville, I drove up to what was, unbeknownst to me, a pump that only emitted diesel. If it wasn’t for the kind, rednecky soul in a small pickup truck at the pump next to ours, I would’ve injected my little Toyota Camry with a fuel that would’ve ruined its system and set me back hundreds and hundreds of dollars. Thank you, sir.

Finally, after making it to Shenandoah, we set out on the 35-mile stretch of Skyline Drive that was most convenient for us to get back to Fredericksburg. We drove from Thornton Gap to Swift Run, pulling off at lookout points every couple of miles to soak in the cold mountain air, enjoy the views from 3500 feet up, and get the best pictures for Instagram. Skyline Drive, and the larger Blue Ridge Parkway that runs through North Carolina and Virginia, is very well known and highly-traveled during the fall, when the leaves change and the foliage is colored brilliantly. In February, though, it was nearly empty, and that was perfect for us. Snow covered some areas on the ground and icicles had formed over the carved parts of the mountain that had been either tunneled through or exposed to construct the road running through it. The sight of the valleys below was something to behold.

View from above

I had wanted to visit Shenandoah since reading A Walk in the Woods, Bill Bryson’s memoirs of hiking the Appalachian Trail with his childhood friend from Iowa. I’ve been on a Bryson kick since last fall, devouring his travel writing from his exploits in Europe and the United States and it pleased me to no end to come across some of the same places he wrote about during his time in Shenandoah.

We spent a couple hours in the park, which we had been delighted to enter for free since it was Presidents’ Day weekend and the National Park Service wasn’t charging admission to enter its federal lands. On the way home, Gina was her most patient self, indulging me on a stop at Madison County High School, the opponent in my first ever varsity soccer game and somewhere I hadn’t been in over a decade. It didn’t look exactly as I had remembered it, and we drove around both the high school’s football stadium and an open space outside of the local middle school trying to jog some memories. In conclusion, after many minutes later and what surely was constant angry hair-pulling from Gina, I still can’t be exactly sure where we played but I was fairly confident it was actually at the middle school.

That night, since it actually was Valentine’s Day and I felt I should at least try to be romantic, we went to dinner at Brock's, a restaurant on the banks of the Rappahannock River in downtown Fredericksburg. There we dined in style, next to a table of 8 or 10 high school girls all dolled up, with fancy dresses and full makeup and heels, with literally nowhere to go unless their daddies came to pick them up and drive them somewhere else. Gina enjoyed a house salad and a glass of red wine to start, with a fish special for dinner that unfortunately I cannot remember the name of because our waitress may very well have been high when she recited its description and laughed in that ever-so-charming fake way as she did so, and I had chicken tortilla soup and a mediocre seafood carbonara pasta dish. I was a bit disappointed, in all honesty, though we did salvage the night by taking an excellent selfie to commemorate the occasion and stopping at Wegmans on the way home for chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream.

Aw, look at us.

Sunday morning, we laid on the couch and watched the Nat Geo channel on TV for several hours. Never in my life had I learned so much about cats of prey. Fascinating creatures, honestly. Of course we had to eat, so we had brunch at IHOP, alongside what apparently was the rest of Fredericksburg’s population. I couldn’t believe how packed it was. There was a 20-minute wait to just to get a table. At IHOP!! And like idiots, we couldn’t even use the coupon I brought because it explicitly said valid Monday-Friday only on it, a slight oversight on the part of the two people who read over the coupon multiple times but only read the small print about getting a free meal under $9 if you bought another meal and two drinks. Sigh.

So that was our Valentine’s weekend. Not too shabby, if I do say so myself, but I’m looking forward to even more fun adventures next weekend when we go back to our New Jersey roots. More then.

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[1] Well, this includes parks in American Samoa, a US territory in the middle of the South Pacific; and the US Virgin Islands, a group of islands in the Caribbean not far from Puerto Rico.

Thanksgiving, Part Three

After my personal debacle at Chicago the previous night, I was determined to make up for it over the next two days. Some big things were in store, things that likely required me staying awake for the duration, so I committed myself to doing just that.

Gina and I had originally planned to walk the High Line, an elevated park converted from a disused railroad line on the West Side of Manhattan, but the prospect of doing that in 30-degree weather with the wind gusting didn’t particularly appeal to us. Instead, we committed our morning and early afternoon to doing things all tourists to New York City probably do – though of course we don’t lower ourselves to those standards.

We walked to the 30 Rock building, the home of NBC Studios, and saw the Tonight Show marquee that Jimmy Fallon had just lit for the first time only the night before on the show. There should be no doubt that he’s the most talented of the late night hosts. His interviewing skills may not be the most polished, but his musical and comedic abilities, evident in reoccurring skits or new skits he is willing to try, and his rapport with his guests (go watch clips with Ricky Gervais or Fallon’s bestie, Justin Timberlake) are unrivaled. Having a group as accomplished as The Roots as the house band is a coup for Fallon, and they are a significant contributor to the show’s appeal, as is the show’s announcer, Steve Higgins.

Ice skating, anyone?

We took the obligatory pictures around the ice skating rink at Rockefeller Center, but were disappointed when we saw the famous Christmas tree had scaffolding around it and wasn’t yet in its full glory. We then marched onward to St. Patrick’s Cathedral, which also had prominent scaffolding as part of a massive, five-year, $175 million renovation project that will repair, restore, and clean the marble exterior of the 135-year old church as well as the stained-glass windows on the inside. Somehow we survived ten minutes inside the house of worship without spontaneously combusting or being set ablaze by an act of the heavens.

$5995 for these bad boys

Don’t worry, though, everyone, the shopping in New York City was at its non-scaffolding finest. My aversion to shopping for myself is well-documented, but even I recognize the need for some new clothes from time to time. Two shirts from H&M later, a handsome red and black plaid number and a light grey sweater, I was satisfied, and it was off to Saks Fifth Avenue for some browsing. It has ten floors, which in itself was imposing, but not nearly as overwhelming as the prices for the merchandise found on those floors. Gina and I played a fun little game, one that you kids at home can play as well, in which one of us would find a pair of women’s shoes and then the other would have to find a more expensive pair. I was certain that when my eyes settled upon a lovely number that was just under $2,000 that I had found the winner, but Gina merely scoffed, saw my $2,000, and eventually raised me to a pair of diamond-encrusted, red bottom (that means something from what I gather) Louboutins for a mere $5,995. How anyone could afford shoes that expensive, much less physically walk in them, I do not know.

We continued moseying around Midtown, stopping in Michael Kors, Express, Barnes and Noble, Grand Central Station, and the ice skating rink at Bryant Park along the way. We had an encounter with someone on the street promoting global female education in which I was forced, hesitantly of course, to admit that I was with Gina and, indeed, supported her in all of her endeavors, but I left the financial commitment to a young Nicaraguan girl up to her. Gina had literally just bought I Am Malala, the story of Malala Yousafzai, a 17-year old Pakistani human rights activist for education and for women who was nearly assassinated by the Taliban, who had banned girls from attending school in her native province, a few minutes before, so I thought we’d done what we could for the cause.

From there it was time for lunch – delicious burgers and cheese fries – before settling in at our hotel for an hour of Family Feud with Steve Harvey and his pocket squares, and a quick nap before our trip to Brooklyn that evening.

I went to Barclays Center two years ago to watch Michigan play in person for the first time, and my obsessive fandom over the years had been rewarded with an 81-66 victory over West Virginia. Michigan started off that season 16-0 and would go on to appear in the national championship game, in which they lost to Louisville, and after seeing them win again in Lincoln, Nebraska this past January in a season in which they went to the Elite Eight, I was hopeful that seeing the Wolverines in Brooklyn this time would be a harbinger of success to come this year.

The night started off with an appetizer that appealed to my roots growing up in Virginia, as VCU controlled their game against Oregon from beginning to end, cruising comfortably to the victory. If anyone in New York had more fun than VCU’s band that night, I would’ve been amazed. Those kids were getting after it in ways I didn’t think a band was capable of, ways that made me reexamine the shortcomings of my own life. No one partied harder than the guy playing the tuba.

Won't be conference champions this year, sad to say

Michigan’s game against Villanova, a matchup of two top-15 teams, didn’t start until close to 10:30, which is absurd. No basketball game played on the East Coast should ever start that late, but fine, I was just happy to be there. Michigan has played in New York or New Jersey in four out of the past five seasons, catering to their very sizable alumni base in the area stemming from the outstanding business school in Ann Arbor, and with the additions of Maryland and Rutgers to the Big Ten I’ll have even more chances to watch the Maize and Blue in person now. The arena was split probably 60-40 in favor of Michigan fans, even though the Villanova contingent had a quick drive up from Philadelphia. It was a great game, played back and forth for nearly the whole way, and Villanova’s greater experience and toughness showed as the Wildcats battled back from a small deficit in the final minutes and held Michigan nearly scoreless to close out the game and a 60-55 win. I was disappointed, and Michigan’s season since then has gone as far down the tank as the tank holds, but glad to experience that atmosphere and all the noise and passion in the arena.

The next morning, Gina and I battled the elements on our walk to Penn Station to head back to New Jersey, where we would celebrate Thanksgiving at her dad’s house. The usual jitters for a boyfriend meeting the girlfriend’s dad were there at first, but quickly went away as I was made to feel right at home. It was my first time eating fried turkey, and along with all the sides it was a delicious meal with great company. Gina’s brother Cameron managed to get through a meal without setting anyone on fire, so that was definitely a step in the right direction. After dinner, the six of us played a dice game called Farkle and a rousing comeback from yours truly led to a breathtakingly stirring victory that left Gina speechless. Granted, she’s speechless most of the time, but still.

I left New Jersey bright and early the next morning to have Thanksgiving with my family at home in Virginia. We went to our old neighbors’ house and had yet another fantastic meal – I feel confident my obesity level has risen exponentially in the past month with Thanksgiving and with holiday candy and lunches before Christmas.

It is on that revolting, yet delicious, note that I will end this Thanksgiving series of blogs. You can have your Star Wars, your Godfathers, your Back to the Futures, your Lord of the Rings, etc., but clearly there has been no more epic trilogy than this. Yes, it’s been greatly delayed, but they do say that good things are worth waiting for. A trip to the Great White North just after Christmas awaits. It will be très exciting, oui?

Thanksgiving, Part One

So, it’s been a while. The timeliness of writing Thanksgiving-themed blog posts on December 8 leaves something to be desired, I’ll admit. It’s like Parks and Rec not starting until January, though: better late than never, amIright?

Friday

I left Baltimore after work the Friday before Thanksgiving more excited than I’d been in a while – I had a full week off, was going to New York, and would be lucky enough to celebrate Thanksgiving twice. All signs pointed to a phenomenal time.

The holiday started in fine fashion as I stopped in Newark (no, not Newark. New-Ark. Why, I really don’t know.), Delaware to meet Gina’s friend Jen for coffee. Shameless plug alert: their previous exploits can be found here. Gina predicted what would happen next, and indeed, she was correct – coffee turned into an hour and a half of the best conversation. I guess Jen and I both like to talk. Not that sorry about it. Plus as beautiful and majestic as I-95 and the New Jersey Turnpike are, I was in no hurry to get back on the road. If I didn’t make it to the Garden State Parkway before 8 PM, believe me, I wasn’t going to miss anything.

Coffee was great – I’ll leave you to guess who got a girlier drink than whom – and I reached my aunt and uncle’s house in Little Silver later that night, but not before two of the fastest roadside transactions of my life occurred. Having exactly $3 of cash in my wallet when my gas light turned on about 15 miles from my destination left me in a bit of dilemma. I just didn’t want to use my card at that point, or wait around to fill up, so I told the kind-hearted gentleman at the Sunoco by the Asbury Park Toll Plaza that I had $3 and to do to his heart’s content with that information. He pumped seven-tenths of a single gallon into my car, asked for $2 (it cost $2.03, but my guy cut me a break. Shout-out to you, sir), and sent me on my merry way, all literally within 45 seconds of my arrival into the gas station. Then, having not consumed what I like to call nourishment since lunch, I pulled into the Burger King drive-thru in Red Bank. Again, it took less than a minute for my bacon cheeseburger to be ready – yes, the cheese was simply a slice that in no shape or form was anywhere near melted, but I’ll take what I can get.

Saturday

The next morning I was up before 8 to help my uncle unload and set up Christmas trees with the Little Silver volunteer fire department. The best part of that experience was the bagels there before we got started – I’ve been living a farce of a life the last 21 years since my family left New Jersey, with the “bagels” we’ve been eating since then. Anyway, there’s nothing like a bunch of big, buff Jersey guys lifting things and talking about their kids and high school football to start a Saturday morning. All of them were great to me, though, to be fair, and I was glad to contribute to a good cause. People of Monmouth County, go there to pick out your Christmas trees this year. So many different types and sizes!

Not bad, right?

Saturday afternoon was spent watching college football, as all November afternoons should be spent, and that evening my uncle, cousin Ann, and I went to Monmouth University to watch a true battle of the titans. I’m shaking as I type this. The Monmouth Hawks were taking on the Central Connecticut State Blue Devils in a tilt of colossal proportions, one that the home team would win 65-50 despite falling behind 12-0 in the first half. The game itself was alright, but it was our seats that made the occasion. I’ve been to a ton of sporting events in my life, from baseball to college basketball to college soccer here and professional soccer in the top two leagues in England, but never have I sat as close to the action as we did on this night. Courtside, first row, right behind one of the baskets. There’s honestly nothing like a team storming down the court right at you on a fast break, and seeing the raw athleticism and ability those players had, even at a low-major level of basketball. There’s also honestly nothing like sitting right by the cheerleaders and hearing the internal drama of a squad. “I hate when we do that cheer! We’re so much better at this one! Would’ve been nice if she told us what cheer we’re doing next! She always does this!” And on and on and on. Despite it being less than 40 degrees outside, we finished the evening with ice cream at Hoffman’s. That’s just how we do things.

Sunday

My last day in Little Silver for this visit was a quiet one. I went to church for the first time since the last time I was in New Jersey – the Church of the Nativity, my parish away from parish (isn’t that the saying?). We then went to a local market to get food for lunch at what had to be the exact same time that the rest of the population of Monmouth County decided to go to that very same market for the very same reason. Lunch was delicious – it’s hard to go wrong with buffalo wings and chicken tenders, and I also had a potato pancake. Just call it a hash brown, though, and be done with it.

The meatball was flying home from South Carolina for her Thanksgiving break on Sunday afternoon, too, and she came to Little Silver to meet my aunt and uncle for a little while. That went very well, if I do say so myself, and then she and I headed to her house in Howell to have dinner with her mom, brother, and his girlfriend, the latter two of which I had never met myself. There was an interesting detour at the Gap in Shrewsbury, in which I waited patiently behind two women who must’ve been outfitting their babies for the next 17 winters with all the clothes they were buying. Why parents spend so much money on baby clothes is beyond me, since they’ll last literally a few months before they don’t fit anymore, but ok. You do you, ladies. All I needed was for the sales associate to take the lock thing off a pair of jeans I had bought several weeks ago in Columbia (Shameless plug 2.0 alert: those exploits can be found here), though the cashier there decided to be derelict in his duty and leave it on. When I’m just standing there with a pair of jeans in one arm, and the women have approximately 13 bags’ worth of clothes between you, one would think they would let me go in front of them. One would be completely and utterly wrong. Yet another reason shopping and I don’t get along.

We made it back to Howell in time for a delicious dinner, featuring some of the best meatballs I’ve ever had. I confessed my fear of ice cream, sort of, though only when it is in a bowl and very melted and milky. Get that away from me, please. Do not, under any circumstances, lick the bowl in front of me like my brother does. Also Gina’s brother, Cameron, casually lit his girlfriend, Jaime, on fire at the table. So there’s that on what was a terrific Sunday dinner.

The next morning, Gina and I headed into New York City, a trip I’ll talk about at length in part two of this Thanksgiving blog. Hopefully that won’t take two weeks to write and post. Oops. More to come.

Jersey Boy

One of the biggest advantages about moving back to the East Coast after a year in Kansas City is the close geographical proximity we have to places comprised mainly of buildings, rather than corn. Living out there had its charms, to be sure, but when the best a 3-hour drive could do is get you to the likes of Tulsa or Omaha, one realizes just how much he misses home, and family.

It was with that in mind that I made two trips to New Jersey earlier this summer, where I was born and lived until kindergarten before moving to Virginia. My uncle's family still lives there, and after a challenging first couple months back in this area, I decided to get away for a weekend and drive up to see them. It was the best thing I ever could have done. I reconnected with family, put some tough times behind me, and perhaps most importantly, I met the meatball. She's back south for the year, but that wasn't going to stand in the way of more good Jersey memories for me.

Friday Night Lights

It's a quick drive to east Jersey from Baltimore; I left after work Friday and made it in time for dinner. By dinner, I mean, I skipped pasta with homemade bolognese sauce to get to a local high school football game in the fourth quarter. The mighty Red Bank Catholic Caseys were 6-0 on the season and destroying the also-undefeated Manalapan Braves 28-7 by the time I got there, and went on to win 35-7. RBC has scored 319 points in seven games now this fall, only allowing 30. Yikes. They dem boyz.

A spirited bunch

I knew none of this going into the game, and had no idea there even was a game until I got to my uncle's house in Little Silver, right next to Red Bank. He mentioned the possibility of going, and I was sold. The RBC side of the stands was packed when we got there, so we sat with the visiting fans. I make fun of Gina all the time for her accent, which she insists doesn't exist, but it does. You can't grow up in that part of Jersey and not have an accent, but it's fine, my dear. It's the voice of an angel. It's the voice of something, at least. We sat right in front of the cheerleaders, and it was probably as Jersey as the stereotype suggests. All Italians who had come down from Brooklyn and Staten Island to live in Jersey. All the girls with high hair. All last names with vowels at the end (hey Rizzo? Rizzo? RIZZO?!?). I was endlessly entertained by them, and the screaming parents. ("'Ay, 'ay, throw da bool down da field!)

After the game we picked up my cousin Ann, who's a junior in high school and doesn't have her license yet. She was at a party -- well, a bunch of people meeting at a huge coffee shop in neighboring Long Branch. To be fair, it was a pretty cool coffee shop with a lively atmosphere and engaging clientele. The problem is, if you don't have a coffee bar and if you have to sit down for the coffee or food to be delivered and you can't get anything to go, what's the point? Come on, Inkwells. Let's get it together.

After we got home that night, it was off to bed to be ready for our trip up to Hoboken the next morning.

Saturday, What a Day

I mean..can't beat this view

My other cousin Chris has started his collegiate career this fall at Stevens Institute of Technology in Hoboken, right across the Hudson from New York City. It's a small school, with less than 3,000 undergrads, but it's great for engineering (and I'd hope many other programs, seeing as tuition, room, and board costs over $58,000 a year) and that's what he wants to do. It's a gorgeous campus, though small, on a hill with views out over the river onto Manhattan. The place is hard to beat in the fall, with the festive foliage in full effect on the green, lush grounds.

We walked around campus for a bit, but there really is only so much you can do there, before heading down to the promenade. We followed that for a bit and made our way into the rest of Hoboken.

If Hoboken was anywhere near affordable, it could be a fun place to live. It's stunningly scenic and provides convenient, quick access into New York. You can go jogging, walk your dog, sit in the park, stroll along the river, whatever you want. Everything you need is right on Washington Street -- a never-ending multitude of shops, bars, restaurants, etc. Therein lies the problem, however. The street is huge, and it's busy, but there's not much outside of it. Parking would be a nightmare. For the price you have to pay to find a decent place to live in Hoboken, I'd rather look at options elsewhere.

Normal size paper plate. Not-so-normal size pizza.

Still, a place with the biggest slice of pizza I've ever had, with no exaggeration, can't be all bad, so I was content for the afternoon. From what I hear, this particular establishment called Benny T's has a unique hallmark in which parents bring their newborn babies and hold them up against one slice of pizza. It's my kind of place. There's also a Ben and Jerry's and a Rita's down the street, so I was content for the afternoon.

Chris packed his stuff, and we headed back south to Little Silver. Let me tell you, driving around the area by Newark and its airport is the stuff dreams are made of, if your dreams feature never-ending factories, parking lots, and train tracks. My body is tingling even now.

We spent the rest of Saturday afternoon watching college football -- I'm embarrassed to be a Michigan fan at the moment. Aunt Kate made a delicious dinner with grilled shrimp, steak, green beans, Caesar salad, and rice pilaf. I want more of it now, please. A few competitive rounds of the card/board game Sequence brought out a desire for dessert that simply needed to be satisfied immediately, so I took Ann and Chris to Hoffman's and we gorged ourselves like animals. All three of us are tiny, but don't let that fool you. We're tanks. The best part was, Sunday morning would bring another change to indulge.

 

Sunday

Gina's lovely mother lives in a nearby town -- the same one I lived in, in fact -- and we'd agreed to meet for breakfast at 9:30. My aunt was insistent upon our family going to church at 11:30, so I figured that's fine, I mean, how long can breakfast take, right? Should make it back in time with ease. I had met Bonnie the two times I'd been up to Jersey before, but only for a few minutes on each occasion, so sure, I was nervous. I got there at 9:15 even though the place we went was literally a two-minute drive from my uncle's house. After being five minutes later to my first date with Gina, though, clearly I wasn't going to take any risks this time around.

Ninety minutes full of sparkling conversation later, I was a happy camper. I had an omelet with pastrami (when in Jersey, right?), caramelized onions, spinach, and provolone cheese. We had a great talk about a wide variety of things, and I'm very much looking forward to seeing her again in November on my next visit to Jersey.

Church was fine -- it's church so, I mean, ehh -- and we got back to my uncle's just in time for more football. After Michigan's disastrous performance on Saturday, I was thrilled that my Buffalo Bills came to Jersey and made a mockery of the hopeless Jets and Geno Smith. There are very few places I'd rather be than walking off that field after throwing three interceptions in the first quarter. New York/New Jersey sports fans are many things, but kind-hearted and patient are not two of them.

After the game, I packed up my stuff, thanked my family for yet another great weekend, the third one I've had with them these past few months, and hit the road back to Baltimore. It'll be a quiet weekend at home in Virginia this week, but the weekend after is beckoning already. My triumphant return to South Carolina. The meatball. Yes.